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 by Izzy Kalman, MS......Empowering Victims the World Over February 2004 
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  • What Social Scientists Should Really be Researching
  • The Danger is Real-Life Authority
  • How to Recognize an Evil Society
  • Read Previous Newsletters
  • New Seminar on Bullying and Sibling Rivalry

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    In this newsletter I want to return to a subject I have addressed before, the violence in entertainment and violence in real life.

    What Social Scientists Should Really be Researching

    In 1938, thousands of panic-stricken US citizens fled their homes for the safety of the wide open spaces. What were they running from? Martians! Why? Because they heard Orson Welles' radio production of H.G. Wells' "The War of the Worlds." The program sounded just like a real news broadcast, so listeners who tuned in after the introduction thought the Earth was really being invaded and headed for the hills.

    Why do I mention this? Because armies of social scientists are wasting time and money (tax-payer grants) devising experiments they hope will prove that violence in entertainment breeds violence in real life. This research is taking place in an era in which graphic violence in entertainment is at an all time high, yet violence in real life is at an all-time low. If violent entertainment really produced violent people, the violence statistics should be higher than ever, not lower. When research contradicts reality, the research is probably wrong, not reality.

    Many social scientists claim that kids should not view violent entertainment because they can't differentiate fantasy from reality. However, this is true only for very young kids. Research shows that by the age of five, children differentiate between real violence and entertainment violence, and between the news and entertainment. The people who seem to have the most difficulty distinguishing fantasy from reality are the researchers themselves; as proof of our violent society, they often cite the abundance of make-believe murders depicted in entertainment!

    We should not be too worried that kids below the age of five may not be able to distinguish violent entertainment from violent news items. When was the last time you heard of a murder committed by a four- year-old.? But there is an infinitely more powerful motivator than entertainment. That motivator is REAL LIFE AUTHORITY. Americans fled their homes in 1938 because they thought they were listening to an authoritative news program. Do you know of anyone running for their lives because they thought the alien invasion in the movie Independence Day was real? But if you see George Bush on TV telling us to run for the hills because of an alien invasion, you better hope you can run faster than me!

    The truth is that we are in great danger from violence, but the villain is not entertainment.

    The Danger is Real-Life Authority
    A few decades ago, psychologists like Stanley Milgram and Philip Zimbardo performed experiments on obedience to authority, using (intelligent, emotionally healthy) college students as subjects. These scientists were motivated by the desire to understand mind-boggling events like the Holocaust, in which educated, cultured people were persuaded by their leaders to commit the most horrendous actions against helpless, fellow human beings. The scientists themselves were astounded by their results. Milgram found that many of the college students were willing, at the command of the experimenter, to administer what they thought were lethal electric shocks to another person! Zimbardo set up a mock prison with some students assigned roles of prisoners and some as wardens. Zimbardo abandoned the experiment prematurely because the "wardens" became incredibly cruel to the "prisoners"! Yes, the real danger to us is the words of real-life authority, not make-believe entertainment.

    Universities no longer sponsor such experiments because they are considered unethical. However, the results need not be forgotten, and all we have to do is read the newspapers or watch the news to see this principal in action. When recognized authority figures give instructions, many people believe and obey.

    How to Recognize an Evil Society
    If you are currently a violence researcher and are truly concerned about protecting our children (and the rest of us), here is a suggestion. Forget about those ridiculous efforts trying to prove that entertainment causes violence. Instead, learn from September 11. That infamous day taught us that the real danger to civilization is not weapons of mass destruction. The real danger is A HATE-FILLED MIND. All it takes is someone motivated by hatred to turn ordinary objects to into agents of immense destruction. Where did the 9- 11 killers get their hatred? From their governments, schools, and religious institutions that officially teach hatred, particularly of Americans and more particularly of Jews.

    If we were to recognize the true extent of the danger we face today, we'd be crapping in our pants. The 9-11 killers are only the tip of the iceberg. There are literally hundreds of millions of people living in countries that are continuing to officially teach hatred of us, both Big Satans and Little Satans (Americans and Jews). Yes, there are millions of people who would be happy to kill us if they only had the opportunity, because they believe the messages of their authority figures. Fortunately for us, most of those willing to massacre us are too poor to carry out their dreams because they live in dictatorships, where the masses barely have enough money for their daily bread. (See the December '03 newsletter for my explanation of why people in dictatorships are financially poor).

    "Evil" has become a hot topic since 9-11. Countries accuse each other of being evil, and many of us call our own country evil. Who is right? It's easy to name-call, but are there any reliable signs of where the real evil lies? The answer is "Yes," and I will provide one sign for you here.

    To judge if a government is evil, ask yourself the question, "Does it officially teach hatred?" If it does, it is evil. When people hate, they have the desire to kill. Teach millions of people to hate, and you will have an army of citizens willing to blow themselves up for your cause. So pay attention to the official declarations of countries. Do their official news media, government officials, and religious leaders call for hatred of another people (not of individual criminals, leaders, or terrorist organizations, but of a whole other nation or religion?). If they do, you've got a sure sign that they are evil.

    See December '03 newsletter »

    Read Previous Newsletters
    My mailing list grows from month to month, and many of you may not have seen my previous newsletters. If you like this one, you will probably like my old ones, too. The ideas tend to be different from those you are used to hearing, so I invite you to read them. I am providing here a link to the webpage that gives you access to my newsletters. As always, I invite you to reprint them and distribute them as you see fit. Just kindly give me credit as author.

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    New Seminar on Bullying and Sibling Rivalry
    I would like to give you another reminder about my upcoming new seminar on bullying and sibling rivalry. While I usually touch briefly on these subjects at my Anger Control Made Easy seminars, I am very excited at the prospect of being able to devote an entire day to these subjects. And I am grateful to Cross Country University for sponsoring these seminars. For further details, please stay tuned to upcoming seminar announcements .

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